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I was apart of the staff this weekend that helped Danyelle Little and I must say that she is amazing because of the way she works “a work-a-holic” and handles stressful moments. We had a couple of OMG moments but nothing to cry or write about. This was my first time being apart of and helping out at a conference so I was able to see how to run and do so CORRECTLY while looking FABULOUS. When you have a vision it is important to work through the vision and make it happen… This was the second year and it grew DOUBLE from what it was last year.. That takes dedication and support. We all love Danyelle and were happy to see her dreams live and will continue to come alive in the future.. She is definitely someone to keep your eye on and to look up to.. I am happy and excited to work and learn under her.

I salute you Danyelle!!!!

You can check her out her blog The Cubicle Chick and here She is also on twitter at @thecubiclechick


Meet Alexandra

  1. Name and Location: Alexandra, Maryland.
  2. What is your passion in life? My passion in life to impact people in a positive way. Especially young women of color who think they have no voice or options.
  3. What is your current job? I am a student, mother, blogger and entrepreneur.
  4. Do you own your own business? If so, what is the name and the mission? Yes, I own shopALS which is my jewelry line and Safi Hair Care which is my natural hair product line.
  5. Did you have any fears when first starting your business? No, not really. I have always been encouraged to take chances and to not be afraid of failure.
  6. Did you have any insecurities when first starting your own business? No, I didn’t.
  7. Describe your brand in one word. Me.
  8. Do you have any past failures that you can tell what you did to learn from them? With my natural hair line, Safi, it was hard to keep up with the supply and demand of the people. It still is. I would suggest that entrepreneurs prepare for “popularity” even when you don’t except your business to boom. You want to be able to give the consumers what they want and when you can’t that can be disappointing to those who shop with you.
  9.  Who are your target consumers? Would you want to change this? Both of my brands are for geared toward whomever. I don’t really have a “target” market or at least I don’t think so. Even with Safi, women who aren’t natural have still purchased and loved my products.
  10.  What inspires you? Seeing people smile and be satisfied with one of my items/products.
  11. Who inspires you? My parents, my daughter and my mentor, Markeeta Young.
  12. What is always at the back of your mind? Will I be a good role model to my daughter as she gets older?  I think about that a lot.
  13. What do you want to change about your job or career right now? I am only 22 and still in college so I don’t have a career yet. When I do have a career I hope I won’t want to change anything about it. I want to do what I love.
  14. What advice do you have for others? Be confident and secure in who you are.
  15. How do you motivate yourself? I always say to myself, “You are living for your daughter…” I keep that in mind often.
  16. Did you have any obstacles that you overcame to get to where you are now? Yes, but I have learned that God places us in certain situations that we are forced to deal with and overcome. Any obstacle I encounter now, I tell myself that it’s for a reason and I will grow from it.
  17. Where can we find you on the web? Twitter: AisforALEX Blog: thegoodhairblog.com Shop: shopALS.etsy.com

Meet Cheryl Mapp

Cheryl N. Mapp, Westchester IL

CNicole’s Chest is the name of my business

1. What is your passion in life?

It is to help others in any way possible.

2. What is your current job?

I’m currently unemployed

3. Do you own your own business? If so, what is the name and the mission?

I’m starting my own accessory line. My mission is to glamorize ladies one piece at a time.

4. Did you have any fears when first starting your business?

Yes, start up cost and if the business will be successful.

5. Did you have any insecurities when first starting your own business?

No, I know they products I produce are quality, and I’m proud to share them with others.

6. Describe your brand in one word.

Unique

7. Do you have any past failures that you can tell what you did to learn from them?

No, I’m new to this.

8. Who are your target consumers? Would you want to change this?

Women ages 15 to 50. No I would keep it the same. I want to make pieces for all are groups.

9. What inspires you?

The thought of successfully owning my own business.

10. Who inspires you?

My line sister. She just started her own online boutique.

11. What is always at the back of your mind?

Monies to finance the business, I want to use my own money. I don’t want to take out any loans.

12. What do you want to change about your job or career right now?

N/A

13. What advice do you have for others?

Follow your heart; don’t let others negative inputs deter what you want to do.

14. How do you motivate yourself?

The fact of me working for my self motivates me.

15. Did you have any obstacles that you overcame to get to where you are now?

Working with someone else who did not have the same passion as I do. I’m no longer working with anyone.

16. Where can we find you on the web?

For now facebook.com/cnmapp I’m currently working on a website.


Helping not Condemning

This situation brought to my attention on twitter about Amber Cole, I feel that I have to say my piece.. I found out about this 14-year-old child who has been misguided and I took up for her like she was my little sister, cousin, or mentee.  I did (and will do it again for someone else) so because grown women were calling her all types of names and saying that she “was a fast little (insert your derogatory word of choice)”  I did not and still do not agree with those statements.  Yes, she was filmed giving head to a young boy who was in her class outside and could have looked like she enjoyed it (I don’t know did not watch the video because I don’t feel that I should participate in watching child pornography)

Here are some reasons and questions as to why we know about her (and most importantly, why weren’t these students in school and why didn’t their prospective teachers notice they were missing):

  1. Ignorant little boys using technology and watching like it was a freak show.
  2. How has her life been so far growing up? Meaning was she molested, did she watch others have sex, was she taught about self-esteem, was she taught about self-worth, did her mother tell her she betta not be fucking but she heard and saw her mother doing the same. All of these scenarios should be included into the fact that she was acting out for attention.
  3. Was she bullied or made fun of?  This question matters because peer pressure is REAL in case none of you knew, also did this guy force her to come outside and give him head.  Force? Yes, force meaning he would tell people that she did it when she really did not so she would still be made fun of and ostracized so she went ahead and did it.  Now she is being called hoe/slut all over the United States.. (How soon do you GROWN people forget that you used to do the same activities.. Some of you gave head or was being fast and got caught kissing at school and was caught on the camera or you knew where the cameras were NOT placed and was able to get away with it.  How about looking in the mirror before condemning this child)

Now let’s talk about solutions so that there will not be another Amber Cole in this technology advanced world.

  1. Mentoring.  This is the number one way to help out our teens whom are misguided and look to the media whether it’s the television or internet for information.  This is truer that you may want to admit.  We have the boom of rappers talking about how they “banged some hoe” the night before.. have rappers talking about how  “you can have whatever you like” but you gotta do something for it be it sex or begging.  Think about how you can help one teen out instead of talking about how “fast they are”
  2. Blogging about positive things and posting it for teens to see. Going to places where they are and cutting out sheets of paper with your blog site, giving them five reasons why they should visit.  If you draw them in, you will have their attention.  Reading about self-worth, self-esteem, healthy relationships, safe sex, physical fitness, and etc will be a great outlet for them.
  3. Stop posting sex-a-pades and tips for teens to see.  Not saying you cannot be who you are, but limiting this can be a huge help for them.  Remember me saying that the internet is where they are going for information.
  4. Speaking about how to have healthy sex and relationships and talk about abstinence but NOT just that.  Telling a 16-year-old that they should not have sex is just like telling your 28-year-old self that you can’t have a cupcake.  Sex is going to happen so instead of ignoring it, how about we provide healthy avenues for them to come and ask questions. (It is being talked about in the most raunchiest detail as I type and you read this post)

All of these tips work, I know from experience have younger cousins and I have two mentee(s).  When you are a positive light you will draw individuals to you and our teens need more positive avenues.  They are not seeing enough, they have stressors coming across their eyes daily, from not being “cute” enough, “skinny” enough, “popular” enough, or “smart” enough.  When in reality these life lessons should be coming from home, BUT they are not.  Therefore, WE as a community have to step in to help.

Think about being apart of the solution and not problem.


Meet Markeeta Young

Markeeta Young (aka KeetaRay) – Maryland/DMV

  1. What is your passion in life?  To help other women feel beautiful inside and out and know their worth. Showing women how powerful we are and how much we have to give is what drives me.
  2. What is your current job? I am a Software Test Engineer for a large computer company. That is my “9 to 5”.
  3. Do you own your own business? If so, what is the name and the mission? I have 2 businesses that I want to eventually make full-time. One is my Life Coaching business and the other is Freelance Makeup Artistry and Skincare. I am currently in school to get my Esthetics license. My freelance Makeup Artistry business is “Faces by KeetaRay”.
  4. Did you have any fears when first starting your business? Definitely. Although most people are afraid of failing, I was afraid of succeeding. Sounds strange, but to me succeeding meant that I’d have a huge responsibility and I wondered if I could handle it all.
  5. Did you have any insecurities when first starting your own business? Yes. I was afraid that people wouldn’t take me seriously. I wasn’t sure if I was good enough. But one day I realized that everyone has to start somewhere and this is what I LOVE. So why not just do it and continue to get better and better? I decided to no longer live my life in fear.
  6. Describe your brand in one word. Inspiring
  7. Do you have any past failures that you can tell what you did to learn from them? The first thing that comes to mind is not taking myself seriously and not knowing my worth as a person and as a woman. I always had the desire and passion for skincare, makeup, and for helping other women by sharing my own life experiences and what I’ve learned, but I wasn’t sure how to get started. When I changed my inner circle, I started noticing positive changes in my life. You must truly understand that who you hang around and talk to on a daily basis affects your mindset and what you do. Surrounding yourself with positive people who share similar interests and are successful will in turn make you successful. Another thing I have learned is that we are ALL afraid of something. Even the most successful people are afraid. But what differentiates successful people from unsuccessful people is that successful people work THROUGH their fears while unsuccessful people allow their fears to stop them. On the other side of fear is your blessing. Keep pushing!
  8. Who are your target consumers? Would you want to change this? My target consumers are women of all ages, all races, all walks of life. We all need mentors to give us the push we need and teach us things we don’t know. And we all, as women, like to feel beautiful on the outside as well as inside. By teaching proper skincare techniques and proper makeup application, along with providing support with my Life Coaching business, I plan to do just that. I want to have women looking and feeling their absolute best.
  9. What inspires you? Art, creativity, music
  10.  Who inspires you? God, first and foremost. Then my friends and family. I am truly blessed to have some wonderful people in my life who support me and want the best for me.
  11. What is always at the back of your mind? To never quit on my dreams, no matter how hard it may seem or what things look like.
  12. What do you want to change about your job or career right now? Ultimately, I want to “retire” from the technical world and work as an Esthetician, Makeup Artist, and Life Coach.
  13. What advice do you have for others? Take steps each and every day toward your dreams. Set goals for a 3-month, 6-month, 1-year, 5-year and 10-year period. Post them someplace where you will always see them. Re-evaluate them and cross things off your list as you reach those goals. The key is to get them out of your head and into the universe. Write it down so you are always conscious. Secondly, NEVER give up. There will be naysayers, people will tell you what you should and shouldn’t do. Everyone has an opinion on your life. But ask yourself who you are seeking advice from. Have they done it before? Are they successful? If not, keep it moving.
  14. How do you motivate yourself? My relationship with God and going to church helps a lot. Everyone there is so positive and encouraging. Also, having positive friends and mentors helps. I read a lot of inspirational things like my morning devotionals from Joel Osteen. And I pray a lot, too.
  15. Did you have any obstacles that you overcame to get to where you are now? Of course. My obstacles were more internal than external. I used to be VERY negative. I didn’t even realize it at the time but I was blessed with friends who cared enough about me to point it out in a loving way. My mindset was terrible. I was very insecure and lacked confidence in myself. Once I started working on myself and developing a healthy, positive mindset, my life changed beyond belief.
  16. Where can we find you on the web? I’m all over the web! Lol Twitter: @1KeetaRay; Tumblr: keetaray.tumblr.com; My Blog: www.allthingskeetaray.com; MUA Site (still in progress): www.facesbykeetaray.com

Meet Ryan Burrell

  1. What is your passion in life? Hair is my passion in life. I really do love my job!
  2. What is your current job?  Hair stylist
  3. Do you own your own business? If so, what is the name and the mission? As a hairstylist you own your brand so in a way. I do have my own business Ryan Burrell Hair.  My mission is to stay true to what I love and that’s beauty.
  4. Did you have any fears when first starting your business? The only fear I had was when it came to my website. I wanted my image to be clean, classic and professional.
  5. Did you have any insecurities when first starting your own business? I had insecurities not with the business but with myself and I’m still working on it.
  6. Describe your brand in one word. CLEAN
  7. Do you have any past failures that you can tell what you did to learn from them? To be honest, I don’t have any past failures. Anything that I have done in the past has shaped me into the man I am today.
  8. Who are your target consumers? Would you want to change this? My consumers right now are agencies who represent Hairstylist. I’m trying to get signed to an agency. So, anything I do is styled to get there attention. But, as far as in the salon my consumers are career women.
  9. What inspires you? Actually the seasons, when the weather changes I get inspired. From the color of the leaves to the hot summer nights. I don’t know why but ideas come to me throughout the season.
  10. Who inspires you? My mother who is also a hairstylist. Ted Gibson and Kim Kimble
  11. What is always at the back of your mind? Is this my best work!
  12. What do you want to change about your job or career right now? I want to let hairstylist know that its more then just doing hair in the salon. There are so any avenues to get involved in. You don’t have to be a celebrity stylist to make good money.
  13. What advice do you have for others? Think beyond the salon.
  14. Where can we find you on the web?   RyanBurrellHair.com  www.twitter.com/RyanBurrellHair

Reflecting on 26 Years. Happy J-Day to ME.

When I woke up this morning I immediately smiled because I started to thank God for bringing me through trials and tribulations that I have already gone though and for the future trials I will go through.  I am 26 years old and still young; I still have my WHOLE life ahead of me.

My theme for this year is FEARLESS.  Being FEARLESS in everything I do.

Not caring about what others may think of me.  I started my fearless mind-set Sunday night and I may have jumped in too fast but that is me!!!!  There will be times when I will mess up and I need and want to experience that so I will learn for future.  From being born to a mother who was addicted to drugs, a dad alcohol, being molested, feeling as if I was not worthy of love even though I had family tell me this daily, from being the small pimple faced young girl who got made fun of because of the severe acne I had and the smell of urine that was permanent…Then for having huge breasts…  Growing up in College Station and Austin Texas having two really good friends then being uprooted and moved back to Maywood Illinois…feeling out-of-place getting made fun of again, but having one friend to attached to me (we’re still friends to this day) to going to Proviso East and not wanting to be there and being put in honor classes my first year with juniors and seniors and learning about things I had NEVER heard of (sex and drugs). Wanting to tag along with my brother so I joined the Track team and met cool people. Figured out that track wasn’t for me and tried out for the cheerleading team and found my niche then being asked by my aunt to help her with the Maywood Bucs Cheerleading and this started my love for volunteer service…Loosing my mother at 16 years old and gaining my father back at 17(he’d been in jail for a longggg time)…Having a small pregnancy scare my senior year in High School…Coming to Southern Illinois University Edwardsville at 18 years of age and knowing no one but one person, I felt out of place and needy.. I started to miss home and have nightmares about my mom, I tried to commit suicide and did not succeed (thank God), I went to counseling on campus and it DID not work, I felt worse than I did before I went…I got into arguments and I lashed out at people who loved me…I was tired of having feelings for the same-sex but being afraid to act on them so I did my best to ignore them and forced myself to be into guys, came to a point where I realized my happiness was more important than pleasing others…I came out at 23 and I have loved every moment even the moments where I felt that I had defend myself (no more of that though, I live for ME) Graduated at 24 and moved back to Maywood for a short stint, hated it…Moved back to St. Louis and started working hard 24/7 on growing my business…I’ve met multiple people who have helped me and I am VERY thankful…Meeting a spiritual advisor who helped me more in two months of “counseling” that all of the other years of counseling I had…to breaking up with someone who meant (and still does) the world to me because we are not equally yoked…Moved to the South Side alone by myself and instead of feeling sorry for myself that I took this time to learn more about myself. I have grown so much in four months and I still have lots of growing to do…I may have lost three important people this summer, but I gained more people.

I say all this to say…

NEVER feel that you are NOT worthy…

NEVER feel like you are DUMB…

NEVER feel like you are a HINDERANCE…

NEVER feel like you have to FIT IN…

NEVER feel like you have to LIE ABOUT WHO YOU ARE…

NEVER feel like you have to LIVE FOR OTHERS…

If you EVER feel like this please go and talk to someone you trust or a counselor. Thank you for reflecting with me!