LGBTQ LOVE: Meet Alona

Name and Location
Alona Thompson/St.Louis, MO

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How old were you when you “came out”?
18

How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?
5 or 6

How did your family react?
My family reacted very well actually..they love what I love

Do you label yourself?
I label myself a woman 1st, but the community labels me a stud.

What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?
One misconception of the LBGTQ “lifestyle” that I want to get rid of is that lesbians are attracted to all women, we have a type as well.

How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?
Help make them aware of the diseases that you can catch as a gay youth..and what ways to protect themselves.

Do you think that you were born gay?
Good question, I am still unsure of that.

How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?
There are still those that use religion as a basis for bashing, people will always pick and choose parts from the bible or Koran or whatever your religion is to make a point.

Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?
No I do not, but I have raised a few and I am truthful and honest about everything I am and everything I do.

How do you make sure that you are being positive?
I pray a lot, and I maintain a positive attitude thru the most negative times.

Where can we find you on the web?
Facebook “Alona Thompson”


Services I Offer.

I have been mentoring youth since I was 15, while still apart of the youth crowd. I started with the community cheerleading team and never stopped… mentoring is something that I take serious, because our youth are being misguided. I will never stop mentoring the youth because they are the future of America. From drama filled reality tv shows to sex being everywhere you turn your head something that has to give. Having positive women and men in our youth life’s they will be better prepared to face the world.

I have different services that can benefit different personalities:
Mentoring, Blogging, Facilitating and Presenting workshops on topics like Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Sexual Abuse, LGBTQ issues (many others but these are the main topics)… I speak about my life growning up and the obstacles that I overcame. I am currently working on ebooks and preparing to write my memoir. I just finished school, so my schedule has more space for clients and events….

I say all of this to say, that I am qualified. Simply because of what I have gone through growing up! I am following my passion and the words of God. I was put here to help, I went through what I went through so that God could use me as a vessel.. (click on my about me page to read more about what I went through) I help others heal through issues they have now and have had since childhood. Some individuals go through life ignoring issues that are obvious to others but not themselves. They are not obvious because they choose to not let them be….

Denial is the devils playground. Don’t let him play in your backyard! Get the help you need now so that you can live a healthy and gracious life.

If you know someone who would benefit from mentoring or some programs that need facilitators for seminars or workshops let me know! I am able to travel as well. Email me: javaniamwebb at gmail dot com


Five Love Languages: Score

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Picture taken from screen shot on my iPad and this book was purchased with my own money.

Two weeks ago I blogged that I was currently reading ‘The Five Love Languages’ Single Edition and everyone I come across I have told them about this book because I feel that you need to know who you fully are to completely experience life. I wish I would have known about this book sooner because my relationships family, platonic and romantic could have been better. I now know!

I told you all that I would come back and reveal my Primary and Secondary Love Language. The Five different Love Languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

I immediately knew mine were Physical Touch and Quality Time.

My scores are:
Quality Time 11
Physical Touch 10
Acts of Service 5
Word of Affirmation 3
Receiving Gifts 1

The highest number you can have is 12 for one category. So that’s pretty powerful to me. I was never able to explain to my friends and past relationships why I needed so much time and to be close. I now know, of course my friends are used to that now because that’s just me…… But moving forward for romantic relationships, there will be issues if that my special person doesn’t try or learn to OR chooses not to speak my love language. and if it’s the latter that means they aren’t the one for me… Period. This knowledge of love language goes both ways also, you (I) need to learn the languages of our friends, co-workers and loved ones! I am actually going to figure out my co-workers because we have to be together for eight hours and it’s best if we make it worth while…

Can you share in the comment section your Love Language if you know it and if you don’t know it I suggest getting this copy if you’re single or picking up the relationship copy if married or in a serious relationship… Thank me later! 🙂


LoveHer

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Last weekend was Enjoi Enter Tainment’s LoveHer weekend which was a series of days focusing on helping Lesbian women becoming better for themselves and partners.. I represented #teamsingle for the weekend..

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Friday night started with: Speed Dating, I took part and it was fun. It was something to do and was a step outside of the box for me.. When you are a femme lesbian, it’s hard for others to tell that you are ‘family’ unless you’re in the ‘scene’ or know alot of other lesbians and that I am not.. Lol So I was able to mingle and flirt which is always a plus for me.. 🙂 I met some women that automatically had me giving side eyes…. With pictures to prove I desperately need to work on my facial expressions… And there were also some women who gave me butterflies… I think WE know which one is better for me!

Saturday during the day: Safe Sex/Healthy Relationship Seminars and I facilitated the Healthy Relationship seminar and got to meet Dread aka Miller from Between Women TV…

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This was a different experience because romantic relationships are hard for me but I was again able to step outside of my comfort zone and do something that was foreign to me and was successful. I also learned a lot about sex that I can truly say I didn’t know and thought I did.. That was an eye opening for me and a lot of other women who were there to participate as well!

Saturday Night: Dice from LaLa Full Court was in the building at the Skate King roller rink I however did not go… Simply because I would have been acting foolish trying to kidnap Dice.. (I kid I kid) wellllll not really!

Sunday Night: LoveHer ended with a bang…. Poetry Night was the closing of a fun filled weekend the name of the night was ‘She is Poetry’ ….. That name has a ring to me, I enjoyed just sitting and listening to words that were being subconsciously spoken to me..
At She is Poetry:

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Enjoi Enter Tainment is known for throwing and putting on parties, but I must say that they did good programming and uplifting women in a positive way!!

Here are some other photos from Saturday…

Check out Enjoi Enter Tainment out on Facebook…

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Black Sheep

When you are born into a family….and mostly everyone is normal.. Normal being Heterosexual in my case, it’s hard being the outcast..

Let me explain…..

I am a proud lesbian, my family feels I am in a phase.. Well let’s just say I have outgrown the phase age stage in my life… The moment I came out of the closet I broke free and have been trying to defend who I was ever since.

Why am I constantly defending who I am though?

This is a question I cannot answer because I have a need to want to be loved.. Loved from my family. I care what my family thinks of me, not people who don’t give two shits nor know who I truly am (let’s get this common miscommunication clear) I think I care so much because my aunts and uncles helped raise me where my mother and father fell short and then when my mother died they stepped in even more. So there’s a different dynamic relationship here…..

However, I have to and must follow the same advice that I give my clients who are dealing with or have dealt with the same issues.

Its simple…

God did not make any mistakes with me.

I am who I am.

I will not change who I am for my family.

I will not hide who I am.

I am in love with Javania.

I will not continue to defend my attraction.

I therefore will not longer feel as if I am the Black Sheep in my family.

 

 

Have you ever felt like the oddball in your family? Share your story below.


Five Love Lanuages…

SINGLES EDITION

(this photo is not the singles edition cover, photo is taken from personal IPhone and the book was paid for by me)

My sis is reading the edition that Gary Chapman intended to be for women and men who are married or engaged to get married..but it seems that single people wanted something to help them in the love department as welllllll…….. When she advised me to get the copy I immediately took offense because I thought she had jokes.. But I am actually glad that she told me about it. I just started this book and I am loving reading every minute of it.. (This is the first book that I am reading on my IPad and it’s not bad)

The premise of the book is for you to fully know your love language before you can know someone else’s love language and that it is okay if your languages do not match, but you have to be willing to fulfill your partners language. Of course the examples are for heterosexual couples, but I do not think that this book excludes homosexual couples. (this is just my opinion, if you know of a book that talks about love and it’s strictly for homosexuals let me know in the comments)

I haven’t gotten to the part where he explains the different languages of love but I am looking forward to finding that out! I will update when I figure out.. 🙂