Correction of Self ?

DISCLAIMER: I don’t claim to know everything and I don’t claim to be an expert. I am however someone who used to hate looking at myself in the mirror, I used to hate what everything about me looked like. I used to tell myself I wanted to just die. Below are TWO exercises that I DID for myself to get out of the rut and negative place that I was in. These exercises may not work for YOU. You have to get into the habit of finding out about YOU and how YOU will respond to retraining your mind to be positive.

 

Exercise 1:

It is important to be honest with yourself; you have to answer to your eyes and God (if you believe or if you believe in something else). Write out things that you fear then write out why, and then steps that you will take to get rid of your fear. Being fearful holds you stagnant in your growth and makes you comfortable. You never want to be okay with not changing and facing fears. You have to learn to overcome your fears. Lying allows you to not change. If you really sit down and figure out what bothers and scares you, life will become better.

Exercise 2:

Everyday for thirty minutes write down something that you feel you need to change about yourself, why, and how you plan to make these changes. There needs to be at least four steps on how you plan to make these changes in your life.

 

 


Embracing Who You TRULY Are

When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?

When you look into your eyes, do you like what you see?

When someone else looks at you, do you get uncomfortable?

When you look at someone else, do you wish you looked like them?

When will YOU be enough for YOU?

Remember the old school saying: “You must love yourself before someone else can love you”

This saying should always be at the fore front of your life because it is true.

  • I remember at 7 years old at school being made fun of because I was in the bathroom putting on a pad and my classmates looking under and over the stalls laughing at pointing at me.
  • I remember being 9 years old being called a pizza face because I had severe acne and one of my “close friends” being the main one to start that laughter.
  • I remember being 13 years old sensing something was different about me because I was sitting next to my best friend and feeling a sensation in my body that I knew would get me in trouble.
  • I remember being 17 years old sneaking my high school boyfriend in the house while my grandmother was at work, learning the art of faking a orgasm, and being into men.
  • I also remember the pain I felt on the inside.. the lie I was creating would haunt me until I became strong enough to face the adversity that many LGBT members face..
  • I remember crying myself to sleep.
  • I remember hating the way I looked.

I also remember going to the mirror the same night that I tried to commit suicide and feeling a calm flow over me. I believe it was God talking to me saying that I was enough.

I was beautiful.

I was not left over trash.

I deserved to be me in the light and in the dark.

 

At 19 years old a true transformation took over for me. I started thinking positive. I started saying positive things to myself. I started dealing with childhood issues and the fact that I was lying to myself denying the attraction that I had to women. I got back to volunteering, and I prepared myself for what was to come.

Empowering is something that I do through my story.

You never know what someone is going through or what someone one has gone though previously.   Do your best to keep a positive flow through out your life. Once negative starts to flow, it will be in charge before you know it. Don’t let the negative things; people, and places take control.

End friendships if you have to.. You must be in control of what you want to deal will. If you have a negative perception of yourself, figure out why. You were born to be you, and no one else.

 

So again…

When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?

When you look into your eyes, do you like what you see?

When someone else looks at you, do you get uncomfortable?

When you look at someone else, do you wish you looked like them?

When will YOU be enough for YOU?

 


Two Men..

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I came across this video on my twitter feed and I first read the comments on the blog post which were good and bad then watched the video for myself.

One, FABULOUS!

Second, the song playing is the song I want to walk down the aisle to.

Third, where can I find these men so that they can help me plan my wedding?

Four, as the words say, “IF THIS ISN’T LOVE THEN TELL ME WHAT IT IS”!!!!!!

I really do not understand the problem individuals have with two people of the same sex getting married.  Everyone wants to bring God into the equation, well first God is the first one to say do not judge, so you are disobeying him all together. I understand everyone will not agree with me and others who are attracted to the same sex but what harm is it doing you?  Just like in heterosexual relationships you all are not having sex 24/7, the same goes for homosexual relationships. Are relationships have substance and we have dreams of taking over in our perspective careers as well.  Stop trying to control feelings and emotions that are not going to go anywhere…

This is for you, YOU who feel the need to preach to homosexuals myself included every chance you get…


Dating vs. Family

Dating vs. Family

You vs. Dating vs. Family

Person you’re dating vs. Family

Heterosexual Dating vs. Homosexual Dating

Heterosexual Family vs. Dating vs. Homosexual Family vs. Dating

 

Either way, two different upbringings coming together will often have issues to work through because not everyone is raised the same! There are differences, actions, ideas, beliefs etc. that some people are not willing to accept… Who says that your family must accept the person you’re dating? Who says that the person you’re dating must accept your family? Is that an unspoken rule? Is that mutual respect? Then what happens if neither parties wants to do the latter?  Is one person just stuck with having to chose between family and the person that they are dating?

 
What insight do you have on dating that you can give?


Day 17:

Seven things that cross your mind a lot:

 

1. Being financially stable

2. Branding my name and business

3. Making my family proud

4. My mother and father

5. How to better myself

6. Helping end Rape/Molestation/Suicide Attempts

7. Love

 

Want to find out more about the challenge? Check out Spoken Words & Thoughts.

 

 


FREE Ebook “Hey YOU”

I have been toying with the idea of writing E-Books for the past year, and I am please to announce that my first one is here. “HEY YOU”…… It’s a spin off of my journals that I made for the attendees who came to my event last August…. If you want a Copy email me and I will send to you with in 10 hours (I say with in ten hours because I am not able to have my phone at work and won’t get my emails until I get off at 8p)

Email to get my free e-book:  javaniamwebb@gmail.com

 

 


LGBTQ LOVE: Meet Alona

Name and Location
Alona Thompson/St.Louis, MO

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How old were you when you “came out”?
18

How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?
5 or 6

How did your family react?
My family reacted very well actually..they love what I love

Do you label yourself?
I label myself a woman 1st, but the community labels me a stud.

What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?
One misconception of the LBGTQ “lifestyle” that I want to get rid of is that lesbians are attracted to all women, we have a type as well.

How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?
Help make them aware of the diseases that you can catch as a gay youth..and what ways to protect themselves.

Do you think that you were born gay?
Good question, I am still unsure of that.

How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?
There are still those that use religion as a basis for bashing, people will always pick and choose parts from the bible or Koran or whatever your religion is to make a point.

Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?
No I do not, but I have raised a few and I am truthful and honest about everything I am and everything I do.

How do you make sure that you are being positive?
I pray a lot, and I maintain a positive attitude thru the most negative times.

Where can we find you on the web?
Facebook “Alona Thompson”


Services I Offer.

I have been mentoring youth since I was 15, while still apart of the youth crowd. I started with the community cheerleading team and never stopped… mentoring is something that I take serious, because our youth are being misguided. I will never stop mentoring the youth because they are the future of America. From drama filled reality tv shows to sex being everywhere you turn your head something that has to give. Having positive women and men in our youth life’s they will be better prepared to face the world.

I have different services that can benefit different personalities:
Mentoring, Blogging, Facilitating and Presenting workshops on topics like Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Sexual Abuse, LGBTQ issues (many others but these are the main topics)… I speak about my life growning up and the obstacles that I overcame. I am currently working on ebooks and preparing to write my memoir. I just finished school, so my schedule has more space for clients and events….

I say all of this to say, that I am qualified. Simply because of what I have gone through growing up! I am following my passion and the words of God. I was put here to help, I went through what I went through so that God could use me as a vessel.. (click on my about me page to read more about what I went through) I help others heal through issues they have now and have had since childhood. Some individuals go through life ignoring issues that are obvious to others but not themselves. They are not obvious because they choose to not let them be….

Denial is the devils playground. Don’t let him play in your backyard! Get the help you need now so that you can live a healthy and gracious life.

If you know someone who would benefit from mentoring or some programs that need facilitators for seminars or workshops let me know! I am able to travel as well. Email me: javaniamwebb at gmail dot com