Day 18:

A picture of you last year and now, and how you have changed since then?

August 2011….

End of July/August 2012

Physically, I have not changed, I have lost a couple of inches but not much has changed.

Mentally, I am stronger and I am learning that if someone wants to talk to me, be in my life, be a friend whatever they have to accept me for who I am and if they don’t want to they can keep it moving.  I have also gotten stronger is learning that everything happens for  reason, I thought it before but I did not BELIEVE it. God places people and situations in your life for a reason and you have to sit still to listen to figure out said reason.

Hair, it fell out because of the color, and now the color is gone, back to growing thick and healthy. I did start locs, but my commitment issues won.

Emotionally, I was a wreck because I was still sad and lonely over my ex now that relationship is the furthest thing from my mind and now I am dating someone who is amazing… 🙂

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Day 14:

Your earliest memory:

 

I don’t have many positive memories from my childhood, but I do remember my being infatuated with my mother’s smile!! It was gorgeous and she had big white teeth…no matter what happened, she always talked about being clean! RIP mommy…

What about your earliest memory?

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LGBTQ LOVE: Meet Alona

Name and Location
Alona Thompson/St.Louis, MO

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How old were you when you “came out”?
18

How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?
5 or 6

How did your family react?
My family reacted very well actually..they love what I love

Do you label yourself?
I label myself a woman 1st, but the community labels me a stud.

What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?
One misconception of the LBGTQ “lifestyle” that I want to get rid of is that lesbians are attracted to all women, we have a type as well.

How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?
Help make them aware of the diseases that you can catch as a gay youth..and what ways to protect themselves.

Do you think that you were born gay?
Good question, I am still unsure of that.

How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?
There are still those that use religion as a basis for bashing, people will always pick and choose parts from the bible or Koran or whatever your religion is to make a point.

Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?
No I do not, but I have raised a few and I am truthful and honest about everything I am and everything I do.

How do you make sure that you are being positive?
I pray a lot, and I maintain a positive attitude thru the most negative times.

Where can we find you on the web?
Facebook “Alona Thompson”


LoveHer

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Last weekend was Enjoi Enter Tainment’s LoveHer weekend which was a series of days focusing on helping Lesbian women becoming better for themselves and partners.. I represented #teamsingle for the weekend..

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Friday night started with: Speed Dating, I took part and it was fun. It was something to do and was a step outside of the box for me.. When you are a femme lesbian, it’s hard for others to tell that you are ‘family’ unless you’re in the ‘scene’ or know alot of other lesbians and that I am not.. Lol So I was able to mingle and flirt which is always a plus for me.. 🙂 I met some women that automatically had me giving side eyes…. With pictures to prove I desperately need to work on my facial expressions… And there were also some women who gave me butterflies… I think WE know which one is better for me!

Saturday during the day: Safe Sex/Healthy Relationship Seminars and I facilitated the Healthy Relationship seminar and got to meet Dread aka Miller from Between Women TV…

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This was a different experience because romantic relationships are hard for me but I was again able to step outside of my comfort zone and do something that was foreign to me and was successful. I also learned a lot about sex that I can truly say I didn’t know and thought I did.. That was an eye opening for me and a lot of other women who were there to participate as well!

Saturday Night: Dice from LaLa Full Court was in the building at the Skate King roller rink I however did not go… Simply because I would have been acting foolish trying to kidnap Dice.. (I kid I kid) wellllll not really!

Sunday Night: LoveHer ended with a bang…. Poetry Night was the closing of a fun filled weekend the name of the night was ‘She is Poetry’ ….. That name has a ring to me, I enjoyed just sitting and listening to words that were being subconsciously spoken to me..
At She is Poetry:

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Enjoi Enter Tainment is known for throwing and putting on parties, but I must say that they did good programming and uplifting women in a positive way!!

Here are some other photos from Saturday…

Check out Enjoi Enter Tainment out on Facebook…

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Five Love Lanuages…

SINGLES EDITION

(this photo is not the singles edition cover, photo is taken from personal IPhone and the book was paid for by me)

My sis is reading the edition that Gary Chapman intended to be for women and men who are married or engaged to get married..but it seems that single people wanted something to help them in the love department as welllllll…….. When she advised me to get the copy I immediately took offense because I thought she had jokes.. But I am actually glad that she told me about it. I just started this book and I am loving reading every minute of it.. (This is the first book that I am reading on my IPad and it’s not bad)

The premise of the book is for you to fully know your love language before you can know someone else’s love language and that it is okay if your languages do not match, but you have to be willing to fulfill your partners language. Of course the examples are for heterosexual couples, but I do not think that this book excludes homosexual couples. (this is just my opinion, if you know of a book that talks about love and it’s strictly for homosexuals let me know in the comments)

I haven’t gotten to the part where he explains the different languages of love but I am looking forward to finding that out! I will update when I figure out.. 🙂


Graduation !!!!

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                                                                                                         Class of 2012

I just graduated with my Master of Arts from Lindenwood University and I cannot be more happier.  Yes, I have my Bachelors degree but I played through that degree, I worked but didn’t really work, this degree came with long nights and tears.  There were many nights where I sat at my computer crying because I didn’t know if wanted to give up or continue on with getting this degree. Life is what you make it, even though I thought about giving up many times I am grateful that I didn’t and that I have people in my corner that helped me through those hard times. This degree came with stress, depression, uncertainty if I was doing the right thing, and sooooo on….. I thank GOD that I didn’t give up. I am a living testimony in more ways than one on doing the best to stay on the right path and not in confusion. Confusion will not leave but it’s what you do with it that makes a difference.

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My sista Alesia graduated with her Masters degree as well!

Who has a testimony that they would like to share about a hard time in their life and they were able to get through it still smiling?


Letting GO

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I recently moved BACK to the city and while I was packing and getting ready for the actual move I was getting antsy.. If you have been reading my blog for some time or following me on twitter then you will know… (the apartment had negative energy and history)…. But when I everything was out of the apartment and I turned in my keys I automatically felt that dead and negative energy lift off of me.. I see things in a new light.. I LOVE it where I am and I feel that this apartment was the last thing I needed to erase out of my life from that relationship…. (I also couldn’t bring myself to erase old pictures, but this was THE FIRST thing I did when I moved into my new place)

New Start

New Beginnings

New Thoughts

New Happiness

 

 

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Guest Post

Hey loves, I did a post on DMVculture yesterday about my life. It’s short and sweet to the point. I’ve never done a post so raw and real. I just let my hands do the typing and what came out is what I left. Please support and head to the site and not only read my post but other posts there. There is alot of information on the site…

The Link:

http://dmvculture.com/2012/embracing-who-you-are-by-javania-m-webb/

 


LGBTQ LOVE: Zakia

  • Name and Location Zakia B. PA.
  • How old were you when you “came out”? I don’t know if I would call it “coming out”…..I started dating a woman at 32 and didn’t hide it! I didn’t call a family meeting or anything, I’ve never announced who I was dating before and didn’t feel the need to now!
  • How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?  I’ve always thought girls were pretty , but not in a sexual way! I became sexually attracted to women in my late teens, but I never ever thought I would be in a relationship with a women!
  • How did your family react?  My mother is bisexual as well, so the members of my family who know about my relationship, haven’t said anything or questioned my decision. My friends were the ones with the issue!
  • Do you label yourself?  No, my friends always ask  “Are you gay?” My response is no, right now I’m dating a women! The fact that she is a woman had nothing to do with my attraction. It was something about HER, from the first time I saw her I knew she would be in my life!
  • What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?  When people think about LBGTQ the first thing they think of is sex! Like we have sex 24 hours a day! This could not be further from the truth!
  • How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?  All young people need support, however I think LGBTQ youth need a little extra support with more hugs!  They need positive role models, I hope to be that one day!
  • Do you think that you were born gay?  I think that I was born with an attraction to women!
  • How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?  I was raised in a very religious family, my grandfather and my brother are both pastors. I find that using ORGANIZED religion as a basis to bash homesexuality, is hypocritical. Most religions teach that God, Jesus , Allah created us and loves us ALL, if that is the case HE must love the Gays as well, right?
  • Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?  I have two children, a thirteen year old son and a five year old daughter.  Telling my son was the hardest thing to do, I wanted to be honest with him, because my mother was never honest with me about her sexuality when I was a child! I told him as soon as I thought my relationship was getting serious! My kids are this ONLY people I’m concerned with, I want to make sure they are happy and love who I love. So far it’s worked out well!
  • How do you make sure that you are being positive?  Growing up with a bisexual mother, and attending boarding school for many years, taught me tolerance and acceptance! We may not agree with what others do, but the key to living in a peaceful society is to be tolerant of other peoples choices in how they live their lives. If they’re are not hurting others or themselves, people should be able to life their lives in peace, without worring about discrimination of ant kind. I hope to be an example to my children and all children I have taught over my decade long teaching career!

LGBTQ LOVE: Dawn Johnson

Name and Location Dawn Johnson – Los Angeles, California

  • How old were you when you “came out”? I was 31 when I came out publicly, 20 when I initially told my dad
  • How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex? I was 15 years old
  • How did your family react? My family has been very supportive of my lifestyle choices.
  • Do you label yourself? I label myself in private but not in public i.e., I know I’m an Aggressive Femme and not a stud or a regular femme.
  • What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of? The misconception I would want to get rid of is that all people in the LGBTQ are dysfunctional due to being abused or hurt by the opposite sex.
  • How can you help the LGBTQ Youth? I think we can help the LGBTQ Youth by being examples of what healthy LGBTQ adults look like.
  • Do you think that you were born gay? I think I was born with the attraction to women, however was raised to believe that I should be with a man.
  • How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?  I feel there are people who bash homosexuality from the religious sector who are only doing so because they are hiding their fear of being “outed”.
  • Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?  I’m pregnant and plan to teach my children about all aspects of love so they can understand that there is no right and wrong if the love is real and pure.
  • How do you make sure that you are being positive? I choose my experiences and teach from the lessons I learn.