I love CoverGirl for adding more diversity to the company… Not to mention Janelle is fabulous and Natural.. She goes to show that being true to yourself works and most important is needed more in the industry where individuals change to be popular…
A picture of you last year and now, and how you have changed since then?
End of July/August 2012
Physically, I have not changed, I have lost a couple of inches but not much has changed.
Mentally, I am stronger and I am learning that if someone wants to talk to me, be in my life, be a friend whatever they have to accept me for who I am and if they don’t want to they can keep it moving. I have also gotten stronger is learning that everything happens for reason, I thought it before but I did not BELIEVE it. God places people and situations in your life for a reason and you have to sit still to listen to figure out said reason.
Hair, it fell out because of the color, and now the color is gone, back to growing thick and healthy. I did start locs, but my commitment issues won.
Emotionally, I was a wreck because I was still sad and lonely over my ex now that relationship is the furthest thing from my mind and now I am dating someone who is amazing… 🙂
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Your earliest memory:
I don’t have many positive memories from my childhood, but I do remember my being infatuated with my mother’s smile!! It was gorgeous and she had big white teeth…no matter what happened, she always talked about being clean! RIP mommy…
What about your earliest memory?
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I have been toying with the idea of writing E-Books for the past year, and I am please to announce that my first one is here. “HEY YOU”…… It’s a spin off of my journals that I made for the attendees who came to my event last August…. If you want a Copy email me and I will send to you with in 10 hours (I say with in ten hours because I am not able to have my phone at work and won’t get my emails until I get off at 8p)
Email to get my free e-book: firstname.lastname@example.org
A time you thought about ending your own life:
I was 19 years of age, laying in my dorm room Spring Semester 2005 at SIUE and was depressed and crying because I was missing my mother who died when I was 16, trying to sort through being molested, trying to ignore and stop my attraction to women, failing ALLLLL of my classes at that time, and did not want to live anymore. I felt that it would have been easier to just end my life. I picked up a bottle of Tylenol, poured a bunch in my hand, and in walked my roommate as I was putting my hand to my mouth to swallow, more.. She knocked them out of my hand and then called a close friend of mine to tell him to get to our room immediately. That was a turning point for me. I went to counseling which did not help, I still had suicide thoughts but didn’t try to hurt myself. At that point in my life counseling didn’t stop me from thinking about slitting my wrists or swallowing pills…It actually made me what to end my life more, but the promise I made to God, myself, and friends at that time is what helped.
What about you? Have you ever thought about ending your life?
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Since I’ve been blogging one thing has been consistent… the same… Doing the best I can to be and embrace who I am, not what others feel what or who I should be.
We talked about getting and becoming comfortable with yourself. If you feel that you have to hide the real you then whats the real issue? I am real good about expressing my views and who I am with friends and strangers…but when it comes to family, I get all quiet tuck my tail and walk away from the issue.. I can no longer continue to do so. I also should not feel like I have to continue to fight with and defend who I am to ANYONE… I am growing and coming into my own.. This topic can transfer to many topics and different relationships.
Communication is important but is difficult…. if you have not been taught how to properly communicate…
PLEASE don’t take that as you do not learn. make sure if you do not know how to communicate, you take that in strides and learn…
If you feel like you cannot be yourself around people, or feel that you have to explain you to others stop and look inside to figure out why. Once grown, you don’t have to answer to anyone… Remember that!
How do you deal with being your true self no matter what?
Jessie J singing Who YOU ARE acoustic ….a song that I LOVE soooooo much… Listen to the words. Please..
No words needed from me.. Please ENJOY!!!!!
Name and Location
Alona Thompson/St.Louis, MO
How old were you when you “came out”?
How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?
5 or 6
How did your family react?
My family reacted very well actually..they love what I love
Do you label yourself?
I label myself a woman 1st, but the community labels me a stud.
What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?
One misconception of the LBGTQ “lifestyle” that I want to get rid of is that lesbians are attracted to all women, we have a type as well.
How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?
Help make them aware of the diseases that you can catch as a gay youth..and what ways to protect themselves.
Do you think that you were born gay?
Good question, I am still unsure of that.
How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?
There are still those that use religion as a basis for bashing, people will always pick and choose parts from the bible or Koran or whatever your religion is to make a point.
Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?
No I do not, but I have raised a few and I am truthful and honest about everything I am and everything I do.
How do you make sure that you are being positive?
I pray a lot, and I maintain a positive attitude thru the most negative times.
Where can we find you on the web?
Facebook “Alona Thompson”
I have been mentoring youth since I was 15, while still apart of the youth crowd. I started with the community cheerleading team and never stopped… mentoring is something that I take serious, because our youth are being misguided. I will never stop mentoring the youth because they are the future of America. From drama filled reality tv shows to sex being everywhere you turn your head something that has to give. Having positive women and men in our youth life’s they will be better prepared to face the world.
I have different services that can benefit different personalities:
Mentoring, Blogging, Facilitating and Presenting workshops on topics like Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Sexual Abuse, LGBTQ issues (many others but these are the main topics)… I speak about my life growning up and the obstacles that I overcame. I am currently working on ebooks and preparing to write my memoir. I just finished school, so my schedule has more space for clients and events….
I say all of this to say, that I am qualified. Simply because of what I have gone through growing up! I am following my passion and the words of God. I was put here to help, I went through what I went through so that God could use me as a vessel.. (click on my about me page to read more about what I went through) I help others heal through issues they have now and have had since childhood. Some individuals go through life ignoring issues that are obvious to others but not themselves. They are not obvious because they choose to not let them be….
Denial is the devils playground. Don’t let him play in your backyard! Get the help you need now so that you can live a healthy and gracious life.
If you know someone who would benefit from mentoring or some programs that need facilitators for seminars or workshops let me know! I am able to travel as well. Email me: javaniamwebb at gmail dot com