LGBTQ LOVE: Zakia

  • Name and Location Zakia B. PA.
  • How old were you when you “came out”? I don’t know if I would call it “coming out”…..I started dating a woman at 32 and didn’t hide it! I didn’t call a family meeting or anything, I’ve never announced who I was dating before and didn’t feel the need to now!
  • How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?  I’ve always thought girls were pretty , but not in a sexual way! I became sexually attracted to women in my late teens, but I never ever thought I would be in a relationship with a women!
  • How did your family react?  My mother is bisexual as well, so the members of my family who know about my relationship, haven’t said anything or questioned my decision. My friends were the ones with the issue!
  • Do you label yourself?  No, my friends always ask  “Are you gay?” My response is no, right now I’m dating a women! The fact that she is a woman had nothing to do with my attraction. It was something about HER, from the first time I saw her I knew she would be in my life!
  • What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?  When people think about LBGTQ the first thing they think of is sex! Like we have sex 24 hours a day! This could not be further from the truth!
  • How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?  All young people need support, however I think LGBTQ youth need a little extra support with more hugs!  They need positive role models, I hope to be that one day!
  • Do you think that you were born gay?  I think that I was born with an attraction to women!
  • How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?  I was raised in a very religious family, my grandfather and my brother are both pastors. I find that using ORGANIZED religion as a basis to bash homesexuality, is hypocritical. Most religions teach that God, Jesus , Allah created us and loves us ALL, if that is the case HE must love the Gays as well, right?
  • Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?  I have two children, a thirteen year old son and a five year old daughter.  Telling my son was the hardest thing to do, I wanted to be honest with him, because my mother was never honest with me about her sexuality when I was a child! I told him as soon as I thought my relationship was getting serious! My kids are this ONLY people I’m concerned with, I want to make sure they are happy and love who I love. So far it’s worked out well!
  • How do you make sure that you are being positive?  Growing up with a bisexual mother, and attending boarding school for many years, taught me tolerance and acceptance! We may not agree with what others do, but the key to living in a peaceful society is to be tolerant of other peoples choices in how they live their lives. If they’re are not hurting others or themselves, people should be able to life their lives in peace, without worring about discrimination of ant kind. I hope to be an example to my children and all children I have taught over my decade long teaching career!

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